After my brother died (1992) it became powerfully clear the most important thing to me was people; not the stuff, or the things, or the shenanigans (one of my favorite words!) that can get us all tied up in life. My Mom taught me at an early age to carve out time for the people and opportunities I care about, and the death of my brother reinforced it.  “Everything else will be there when I return”, she’d say… like the dust, the dishes, the work, etc. 

One time in my early 20’s, after working a full day at my job and then teaching two dance classes, a girlfriend picked me up for dinner. On our drive to the restaurant she asked me how I did it … when did I ever get sleep. I remember answering, “I can sleep when I’m dead”.  And don’t get me wrong I do love my sleep but this was a true statement for me.

It’s an interesting contrast that relationship is so important to me and yet feels like my biggest hurdle & self-project. In that I mean self-healing and improvement.

I once heard, “never invest more than you can afford to lose”.  Apparently I am not afraid of losing because I sure do invest all of me in my relationships (and not just Love relationships, all my close relationships)….. and let me tell you, it has hurt a lot ~ numerous times!!  AND I refuse to change this about myself ~ full investment in my relationships ~ regardless of what I’ve experienced, or how I feel I’ve been treated in my past. It’s exactly this kind of friction that keeps me looking and pushing my expansion ~ I do not want that to end. I will show up no matter what ~ relationships are the key to healing. I will follow my heart and take my brain with me.

So …. Here’s an automatic writing that pertains to “relationship” that showed up for me a while back. Kind of an interesting analogy …

Any time we get out of a relationship it is always the perfect opportunity to do an autopsy on that relationship. To reflect. When we know better we do better.

We need to ask ourselves… what did I do to contribute to the demise of that relationship.

Take the time to look within. Do not run or rush nor create distraction.

If we learn anything from it then it at least becomes tuition ~ we’ve gained some education. If not, the pattern will most likely repeat itself in our next relationship because we’ve most definitely experienced that same pattern in previous relationships. Oh I know… it’s easy to distract from self; just get busy with life and pretend it was only the other’s issues. Yet, no matter how flat a pancake is, it has two sides. And one of those sides is always ours. Yep, it’s true.

Re·la·tion·ship: the way in which two or more people regard and behave toward each other. Yep it says “two”….